You have to be a friend to have a friend. Have you heard that little piece of advice before? It couldn’t be truer. Most of us spend a great deal of time and energy looking for people who will listen to us, accept us, share our point of view, be there for us when we need them . . . and yet we spend little energy thinking about how we can do these things for other people. We have to be a friend first by being intentional about offering friendship to others. The apostle John put it this way: “Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions” (1 John 3:18).
We have to be a friend first by being intentional about offering friendship to others.
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Your actions toward the people in your life will show whether you are truly being a friend or whether you are just on the lookout for someone who will be a friend to you. Ask yourself these questions:
- Am I respectful of other opinions and points of view?
- Am I quick to apologize when I say or do something wrong?
- Do I forgive easily when a friend has offended me?
- Do I listen well and respond thoughtfully?
- Am I available when a friend needs me, even if it is inconvenient?
- Do I give my time and energy willingly?
Talk is cheap, as they say. Saying you are someone’s friend doesn’t require much sacrifice—but being a good friend does. Being a friend is an intentional choice to love, day by day. In the words of Jesus: “This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:12–13).
Saying you are someone’s friend doesn’t require much sacrifice—but being a good friend does.
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– Nelson Searcy and Jennifer Dykes Henson
The above excerpt is from p. 102-103 of The New You: A Guide to Better Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Wellness.
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